- I want to be able to walk around and move freely, so no IV (a port is okay, in case of emergencies) and no constant or internal fetal monitoring unless it's absolutely necessary. I'd like to stay wireless if possible.
- No unnatural induction-y stuff (ie, pitocin or breaking water) unless there's danger to me or Jim. I'll progress as slow or fast as I need to.
- I don't want to be offered any pain medication, including the epi. I know what's available, and if I want it, I'll ask for it. I'm way too weak-willed to refuse something offered to me, but I think I'll be okay if they don't try to push it on me. This, of course, goes out the window if I need a C-section - in that case, I want every drug they have available, including the doctor's private stash.
- No episiotomy - if I'm going to tear, let me just tear. I hear it heals up a lot easier that way.
- Shower and/or tub available would be nice, as would be not-too-bright lighting and no unnecessary people in the room.
- No mirrors! I really don't want to see what's going on down below. I am way too squeamish. This goes double if a C-section becomes necessary - please please please don't make me watch.
- Delayed cord-cutting sounds like a good idea, but I'm not quite sure yet, so I need to check into that. We'll probably also decline the eye drops, since I'm reasonably sure I don't have chlamydia, and the vitamin K shot, since we're not circumcising.
- I want to hold James and try breastfeeding as soon as possible, before they whisk him off to be weighed and measured and so forth. That stuff can probably wait half an hour or so.
- I want him to stay with me if at all possible, but if he does get taken out of the room for something, I want to make sure he's not given any pacifiers or bottles (formula, glucose, or just water). I hear that can cause breastfeeding issues, and I'd prefer to make that go as smooth as possible.
Reading back over that, I feel like a crunchy granola hippie. I don't think I'm being too unreasonable, though. This is obviously all ideal scenario stuff, and if there's real danger to me or Jim, I'll be glad to do whatever I need to and won't beat myself up over not sticking to plan.
Still, that's what I've got so far. I don't think it covers everything - if you see something I haven't addressed that I maybe should mention, I'd appreciate suggestions.